Swinger Community: Expert Advice on Why Couples Choose Swinging
As a committed couple your decision to enter the swinger lifestyle and leave behind a traditional monogamous relationship can pose some challenges. The initial conversion about wanting to try swinging with your partner can often be a difficult conversation to have. Even with mutual consent to explore the swinger lifestyle, it is normal for couples to have some doubts over how an open relationship might affect their own relationship. The good news is, for the majority of couples, they wonder why it took them so long to embrace swinging in the first place! So what are the reasons why couples choose swinging and how can you make a success of it in your relationship?
When you are single the ‘thrill of the chase’ is something emotionally and physically very satisfying. When you first get together as a couple you are probably ‘at it like rabbits’ in the first phase of your relationship, you have great sex together and try out new experiences and explore your sexual boundaries. However, ultimately in the vanilla world things tend to settle down into a routine. That is not to say that being with a committed partner is a bad thing. Far from it. It gives you stability in life, someone with whom you can share a deep connection, start a family with and ultimately share all of life’s ups and downs together.
However, often people are looking for a little extra excitement with their partner, something to ‘spice up the day to day routine’. Date nights are fun but entering the swinging lifestyle allows you both to explore and feel the excitement again of being with someone new, seeing them naked for the first time and exploring a new body and all the pleasures that brings. All from the security of knowing you are both in a stable and committed relationship with each other.
Swinging allows you both to experience the thrill of the chase again, only this time together! Becoming part of an online swinging community site such as Only Adult Dating, allows you both to search together for potential new playmates. All couples can view and exchange photographs, send hot messages to others and generally build up the excitement of that moment when you have all decided to meet up for the first time together. What’s more, deciding to swing with another couple can rejuvenate your own excitement and arousal in your partner and seeing them in an intimate exchange with another can often be a turn-on.
After years or living together or being married, whilst you still love your partner dearly, the idea of sex with the same person can get a little less exciting as the years pass and your love life potentially falls into a routine. If you had a high sex drive or were more sexually adventurous in your youth, it is normal for things to ‘slow down once you settle down’. Some people decide the only way to spice things up is to have an affair. However, affairs tend to be embarked upon by people who are unhappy in their current relationship. This is a crucial difference, if you are unhappy in your current relationship, do not suggest swinging as a solution. Couples who embark on the journey into the swinging lifestyle do so because they both embrace the idea of consensual non-monogamy, and crucially are looking to share new experiences and new sensations together. This decision is made jointly and is founded on trust and mutual respect for their own relationship. Many couples have remarked that the mutual sharing of thrilling new experiences and the ability to discuss them together afterwards, has only served to strengthen their relationship. As long as the consent is mutual then a world of pleasure and sensual experiences awaits those couples who decide to become swingers.
It is a little know fact that the ‘B’ in LGBT (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans) accounts for just over 50% of people who fall under this classification (Source: Glaad.org & Williams Institute). Indeed, if you were to include people who are ‘bi-curious’ this figure would be even greater. As a result, the number of people who identify as bisexual or bi-curous is a lot higher and more common than you might at first think.
Estimates by the Kinsey Institute suggest that up to 30% of the population may be on the bisexual scale, or at least a little bi-curious at numerous points in their life. However, a lot of people with these feelings never explore them because of a fear of stigmatisation from their friends, work colleagues or family.
The advantage of belonging to a swinger community gives many members the opportunity to explore their bi feelings. They might already identify as bisexual or are merely bi-curious and seeking to act upon their bi feelings. Remember that the swinger community is built on trust, respect and is non-judgemental, as long as mutual consent is always given. Therefore it is very common for couples where one or both members are bisexual or bi-curious, to seek out and meet up with other couples with similar matching attributes.
Exploring your bisexuality with your partner present also has the added bonus of not risking your current relationship. You will have discussed wanting to act on your feelings and both partners are consensual of what is going to happen. In the swinger lifestyle there are many bisexual and bi-curious couples who enjoy sharing and exploring their bi feelings safely. So if this sounds like you and you are looking to explore your bi feelings in a safe environment, then swinging is an enjoyable way to do so.
When discussing what makes a successful swinger lifestyle choice for couples, it all boils down to four things; honesty, communication, trust and consent. As long as you are both honest with each other at all times, communicate clearly what you are comfortable with as well as not comfortable with, then trust between you is created in your swinger desires. As always, before any swinging experience mutual consent must have been agreed in advance. If at any time your feelings change, or you don’t feel comfortable about something, then discuss this with your partner and modify your swinger lifestyle experiences accordingly.
Couples who have embraced the swinger lifestyle by following these four golden rules, often talk about how it has rejuvenated their sex lives and how the joys of experiencing swinging together has strengthen their own relationship. So, rather than fall into a routine where your sex life becomes dull and less interesting, why not take the decision to embrace the swinger lifestyle and re-kindle your sex lives beyond your wildest expectations. The excitement of being with new partners and exploring new experiences also makes you want to bring that energy and excitement back home. Many couples say that they enjoy discussing how the recent swinger experience made each of them feel and find this a huge turn on which makes their bond together even stronger.
If you are a couple reading this, there are honestly lots and lots of reasons to make that first move into the swinger lifestyle. If this sounds like what you are seeking and you are both interested, then it is definitely something worth exploring. Life is too short to fall into a boring and unfulfilling sexual relationship with your partner, so if it feels like the swinger lifestyle is something you want to try, then do it! Chances are you will be very glad that you did and the only regret that you will have, is that you wished you had made the decision earlier!
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