Bisexual Community: Expert Advice on A Beginners Guide To Bisexual Dating
A lot of people assume that bisexual dating offers the best of both worlds; the chance to date both women and men. The reality however is that bisexual dating comes with several challenges for both the bisexual person and their partner. For bisexual dating to be a success you first need to understand your own true feelings and those of your partner. To better understand what the likely challenges are and how best to overcome them together with your partner, this article will hopefully help.
The term bisexual is usually defined as someone who is attracted to both males and females. Just how much they are attracted and in what way, tends to vary depending upon the individual. For example, a bisexual woman might be physically attracted to men but have a stronger emotional attraction to other women. On the other hand, a bisexual men might prefer to hang out with and socialise with women but still have a physical attraction to other men. It varies depending upon the individual and what they feel most comfortable with. A bisexual is therefore someone who has an attraction to both sexes either emotionally, physically or both.
It might surprise you to know that more people identify as having bisexual feelings at some point in their lives than you would at first think. The Williams Institute estimates that the ‘B’ in LGB (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual) accounts for 52% of people who identify in this classification (Source: Glaad.org & Williams Institute). Furthermore, if you were to add in those who have experienced bi-curious feelings at some point in their lives then the figure would be much greater.
Get To Know Your Bisexual Feelings
Whether you identify as bisexual or are bicurious and want to know more, then get to know your bisexual feelings first. This will help you to understand yourself better and what your true desires really are in relation to your relationships with other people.
Start by asking yourself the following questions
Your answers to the above will hopefully provide a useful pointer in terms of the type or types of people you are seeking to meet in a relationship. You might find that you are physically attracted more towards one gender but emotionally prefer the company of the other. Or maybe you enjoy the company of both genders and the same goes for physical attraction. The main thing is to focus on your feelings first and to identify what these are and therefore the type of bisexual relationship you are seeking from a bisexual dating site.
If you are single then exploring your bisexual feelings is something that will ultimately be your decision and we will cover this in the next point. However, if you are in a relationship and your partner lets you know that they have bisexual feelings, then it is very important to listen and understand their feelings as your bisexuality becomes a joint decision. It is more common than you might think for one partner in a married or long term committed relationship to reveal to their partner that they have bisexual feelings. You will need to discuss this openly and honestly with your partner. If they are comfortable and supportive of your feelings then you will need to agree on a plan for you, or both of you, to meet up with another member of the same sex for a relationship. Sometimes it is purely physical, a hookup, a bisexual threeway or bi threesome. It is quite common for couples to explore their partner’s bisexuality together and use a dating site to find a bi-woman or bi-man for a threesome. Others prefer to keep the two relationships separate and the bi-sexual partner agrees to meet others of the same sex independently. Ultimately, your own primary relationship is what matters and for you to explore your bisexuality successfully you will need to discuss and listen to the feelings of your partner also. Openness and honesty is the key.
Beginning Bisexual Relations As A Single
If you are single and identify as bisexual or bi-curious then beginning your bisexual journey via a dating site is a good safe option. But before you do, it is important to again address your own feelings and what you want out of a relationship with another bisexual person.
It all boils down to what you want and what you are comfortable with in a relationship. Ask yourself, how will you feel towards your potential partner knowing that they like you are attracted to members of the opposite sex? What sort of connection is most important with your new partner, emotional or physical? How will you feel if your partner wants to explore physical fulfilment with another? These are all very important questions you should consider. Knowing what you are comfortable with will make it much easier to discuss this with any potential partners online first to ensure when you decide to meet up, there will be no unexpected ‘deal breaker’ surprises. On the upside, the super positive thing about dating another bisexual is that they can relate to your feelings in a way that non-bisexual people cannot.
Finding a new bisexual partner is easier today than it has been in the past due to the emergence of online communities and websites that are dedicated to bisexual and bicurious people. Only Adult Dating’s Bisexual Community is one such resource. This is a friendly community of bisexual singles and bi couples who are seeking to meet others with bisexual feelings for bi fun and relationships.
You can become a member of this bisexual community quickly and easily and registration is free. Once a member you can then explore the site and search for other bisexual singles, bi couples or bicurious men and women with ease. All members can see and read the profiles of potential matches as well as view their primary photo – so you know who you are messaging if you like the look of their profile. There are also member blogs, chat rooms and lots of other great features to explore. Lastly, this site has an LGBTQ friendly customer support team who are available 24/7 to assist with any questions and to keep your dating experience safe at all times.
The main advantage of using dating sites such as these is the safety aspect. Your personal contact details (name, address, email are never shared) and you can use the chat and private message interface to get to know potential matches safely. This allows you to slowly build up a conversation with a potential partner and gives you the opportunity to ask those all important questions first. This way you can see if their bisexual relationship goals are a good match for yours and vice versa. Trust me when i say from experience that this is a lot less stressful than striking up a conversation with a random person you fancy in a bar and then telling them that you are bisexual and hoping that they share similar feelings.
Being bisexual or having bi-curious feelings is more common in society than you probably thought. Just like with all relationships, it all starts with you and what you want from a relationship with another person or persons. Openness and honesty with yourself and your partner (if in an existing relationship) about your feelings is very important. Once you have figured these out, then you can embark on your journey of bisexual discovery which will hopefully lead to happiness for both you and your partner.
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