Bisexual Community: Expert Advice on A Bisexual Couple’s Guide To Dating
Dating as a bi couple can be lots of fun when done correctly and with the full consent of both parties. But what are the different options available and what are the best strategies to ensure your existing relationship stays strong, whilst you enjoy the company of another bi-single or bi-couple? Read on and let our Bisexual Couples Guide To Dating provide you with some expert insights and advice to ensure you get it right from the start.
As people become more fluid in their sexuality and relationships we are witnessing an increase in the popularity of bisexual dating for couples. What was once a taboo subject that was rarely mentioned in public is now becoming far more common than you might at first think. There are now a lot more opportunities for couples where either one or both members are bi or bi curious to explore arranging playdates with others. The internet has provided a wealth of sites and communities that allow couples to safely explore their bi-feelings and to bring their bi fantasies to life together.
Like all relationships the most important factor is the loving bond between you both. Whether one or both of you are bi or bi-curious, it is important to discuss your feelings about bisexuality together. These discussions should be open and honest and you should discuss what you are seeking to get out of any dates with other people. Most bi couples in my experience treat any bisexual date or bi meetup with another bi-person as strictly physical. It is a necessary ‘release’ to be able to play with a partner of the same gender but one that is purely physical and does not encroach upon the emotional (and physical) bond you have with your partner. It is vital that you both consent to opening up your relationship to others in a way that you both feel comfortable with and have discussed and agreed in advance. Some couples report that the sight of seeing their partner experiencing pleasure with another of the same gender is a big turn on that only brings them closer together. The main thing is trust, so be open and honest about the reasons for wanting to explore your bi side together and listen to the feelings and any concerns your partner has.
Assuming you have both decided to try out bi dating as a couple, the next step is to agree on the type of experience you wish to explore. There are several options but the most popular three are as follows.
Whether you are both bisexual or maybe only one of you is or is bi-curious, lots of couples like the idea of meeting other bi couples. This could be for same room fun as it is termed, where both couples bi partners explore their feelings with the others, with their partners present. It is similar in some ways to swinging only that both couples have one or more members who are bi or bi curious.
This is more commonly referred to as a threesome, where the bi female partner of the couple is seeking a bi woman or bisexual female to join them. It is important here to be very clear with the bi-female what sort of encounter you are seeking and to discuss and respect their wishes and expectations also. It may be that the invited bi-female is only interested in an encounter with the bi female of the couple only, whilst the husband or male partner watches or plays only with their partner also. Alternatively, if you all agree to join in together then great, but consent as always is needed between all parties.
In this scenario the bi couple are looking for a bi male to join them. Sometimes this scenario plays out in a ‘cuckold fantasy’ where the invited bi male first plays with the female and then the bi-male joins in afterwards. Alternatively, the two bi males get to play together whilst the bi female joins in or simply watches. Or as above, you all agree to play together. As before, clear consent to be agreed in advance so everyone knows what actions to respect.
When one or both of you in a couple is bisexual, it can be hard sometimes to meet other people in real life who share the same feelings. Sometimes, you want to keep your ‘play’ life completely private and separate from your actual social life, so your friends, work colleagues, other parents no nothing of you and your partners bisexual identity and adventures.
Hence it makes perfect sense to use a bi-friendly dating community site. Sites such as Only Adult Dating’s Bisexual Community. This site is safe and secure and never discloses your personal contact details. You can use private messaging to ensure you only chat to the people whom you wish to chat with and your messages will not be visible to others. You can use a cropped photo so as not to reveal your identity as your primary profile image. You can then restrict any additional photos you decide to add to your profile to only those people you give access to. In short, your profile and information is very safe and secure.
In addition to safely and confidentially, the other main reason to use a bisexual dating site to meet other bi couples seeking bi couples or bi singles, is the fact that everyone in the community is bi or bi-friendly. This makes your chances of finding your bisexual match so much greater than on other more mainstream dating sites and in real life.
Whilst dating sites will allow you both to specify in your profile your ages and whether one or both of you are bi, it is very important to be clear on what type of potential bi partner / bi relationship you are seeking.
When writing your dating profile, do make it informative and appealing to others. Describe a bit about you both and specifically whether you are bi experienced, bi inexperienced or bi-curious and looking to explore. Importantly be very clear on the type of bi contact you are seeking – bi couples, bi females, bi-males, etc. But be respectful of the other party and what they might be seeking also. It is always best to say something like, “if this sounds like what you might be looking for, then message us”. This allows you to chat first with any potential date to see if there is any mutual interest in potentially meeting up. Remember to protect your privacy, never exchange personal contact details via the site and always use the private messaging function. This keeps your personal details confidential until such time as you decide to share them with someone you are interested in.
In summary, bi dating for couples is increasing in popularity and there are now specialist bi dating sites and bi dating apps which make finding another bi couple or bi single much easier than in the past. These sites provide privacy and confidentiality and allow you to safely explore your bi feelings from the comfort of your sofa initially. Then once you have found a potential partner (or partners) and you have established and agreed upon what you are both comfortable exploring, then you can arrange to meet up for a play date in real life.
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