A common misperception about bisexual men is that because they choose to date both men and women, they have double the chances of finding a date. Ironically, it is probably harder to find a date as someone who identifies as bisexual male than someone who is either straight or gay. So what can be done to improve the chances of getting more dates if you are a bisexual man? Try the following 5 essential dating tips to improve your chances of finding a great date who is accepting of your bisexual identity.
It sounds obvious, but if you join a dating community that is specifically for and friendly towards bisexual and bi-curious people, you are massively increasing your chances of finding a successful date. The men (women and couples) who are already members of this community are either bi, bi-curious, or interested in meeting / dating a bi-male such as yourself. So try sites such as Only Adult Dating’s Bisexual Community first, as this will mean you are already searching amongst potential dates that are bi-friendly.
Whilst the choice about disclosing your bi feelings is of course yours to make, in my dating experience it is easier to put this on your dating profile from the start. Again, unlike on say a generic dating site, it is much easier to disclose that you are ‘bi’ on a bi-friendly dating community site as you will be amongst bi-accepting people. This ensures the person you are initially chatting to knows that you are bi from the outset and you can discuss your feelings openly with them before deciding to meet up in person. Otherwise you end up being nervous on your first date, and unsure how your potential partner is going to react when you tell them you are bi and whether this is a dealbreaker for them. Therefore, you greatly increase your chances of a successful first date by including ‘bi’ on your dating profile, as any potential dates are fully aware and OK with the idea.
If you are looking for a serious relationship, then consider only dating bi or bi-friendly people. This avoids the disappointment many bi men feel when they come out to their potential partner only for it to lead to a breakup in the relationship. People wrongly assume that bi-people and bi-men in particular, have the best of both worlds. This is certainly not the case. A lot of women (and men) refuse to date anyone who is bi, because the wrongly believe we can’t be faithful, we will leave them for another partner of a different gender or that we are just secretly gay and not fully come out yet. So whilst I wouldn’t say you have to only date bi or bi friendly people, you will find it much easier to do so as they understand you and what it means to be bi.
If on the other hand you are not looking for anything serious but are more interested in having some fun, then you will probably find yourself approached by couples looking for a bi threesome where the husband or male in the relationship is bi or bi-curious and looking to explore or the woman has a cuckold fantasy and the bi male joins in at the end. These can be very thrilling encounters, but just make sure you know what you are signing up for in advance, so all parties are in agreement on exactly what is going to happen.
When I first started dating, I tried several large well known general dating sites. I didn’t put ‘bi’ on my profile as I was a bit uncomfortable with being so ‘upfront’ about my identity and preferred to tell people later once I had got chatting to them. When I did tell them, on several occasions I had people then question my identity. Are you really bi or just secretly gay? Who do you really prefer, men or women? These sorts of questions are offensive and unwarranted. You are who you are and your bisexuality choice should not be questioned in such a way. Be proud of your bisexuality and never feel the need to justify it. Shift you focus away from the well known generic dating sites to those that are more bi inclusive and focused specifically on the bi community and people looking to meet and date bi singles and couples.
The fact is, people come in all shapes and sizes and have different views on sexuality and relationships. Whilst society is becoming slowly more accepting of those of us who identify as bisexual, there are still a lot of people who are uncomfortable with the idea of dating someone who is bi. Therefore come to terms with the fact that not everyone you fancy will necessarily fancy you, once you tell them you are bi. Save yourself lots of time and hassle by not going after people like this – as they are not who you are looking to meet and date anyway! Instead choose the right LGBT friendly dating site / dating community site, then browse thousands of people who you can meet who are all totally cool with dating a bi male such as yourself.
In summary, you can optimise your dating success rate by taking a more targeted approach to potential partners. Join a bi focused dating community and only search for people who are looking for people like you. It sounds obvious, but it is so true. Adopt this approach and embrace these five expert tips and your chances of finding lasting relationships (or short term encounters) with bi or bi-friendly people will greatly improve.
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